I'll get straight to the point: I'm deathly scared of flying again.
I used to be a great flyer - I actually always looked forward to getting on an airplane and not having to think about life for ten hours while being served some great airplane food and dessert.
I believe what really affected me was the disappearance of the MH370. I had a short flight after those news. I was somewhat okay until my second flight back home. It was kind of turbulent. I was still okay afterwards.
Two summers ago I flew across the Atlantic. That was also fine. When I was going back to America, however, I lost it. It was all good until the plane started shaking. I was able to control myself until people around me started screaming. It felt as if the plane was free-falling for a couple of seconds, it felt like a free-fall ride at an amusement park, just at a larger scare. Then I went into panic mode. I couldn't breathe; it felt as if I was having a heart attack. I had scary thoughts of the plane crashing and my family and I not making it out alive.
I have another flight of ten hours in three months and every time I think about it, I can't help but have visions of an airplane dropping. I don't know what to do; I'm really scared.
I came across your site while researching fear of flight and thought you could be of great help.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and we have never been on a trip together. He is 33 and has never left the country; I am 28 and have been to all 7 continents and over 40 countries. I work in travel, I eat sleep live and breathe travel, and I somehow managed to fall in love with the one person who hates what I love most - because he is afraid.
His reasons vary from being uncomfortable on long flights, to fear of a plane malfunction/crash, to terrorism, to traveling to unsafe places, to fear of the unknown. But travel is such a huge part of my life that I want to figure out a way to make him less afraid.
It's a touchy subject between us, because neither one of us will budge but I don't want to pressure him TOO much. We are going to Africa in a few months and he is invited... but saying no.
My parents even got him a passport holder, luggage tags, TSA locks and all the paperwork needed for passport as a Christmas gift. But still.
This will be the 3rd trip he has been offered by my family and me that he has turned down and I'm just not sure what I can do to make him feel better.
He's traveled here and there for work, but always domestically, never internationally, and he even hates that.
(This article is from PopClub Magazine Issue 50 November 2015)
By Billy Boey
Destiny sets an unexpected journey for Captain Lim Khoy Hing. Instead of becoming a teacher that he envisioned himself to be, life made him take on a journey into the aviation industry. Now retired, Captain Lim did not contend himself to stay home and relax. He continued to be active in his line of work to inspire and educate fearful flyers, as well as aspiring pilots through his book Life in the Skies. POPCLUB catches up with the former commercial airline captain to talk about his book and his sky high journey.
(This article is an extract from Vulcan Post - a Singapore Top Tech lifestyle blog . For the full article please click hereand for the full text of the talk - please click here)
Image Credit: TEDxPetalingStreet Facebook page
When I found out that I was invited to attend the TEDxPetalingStreet event and that it was going to be conducted mostly in the Mandarin dialect, I second guessed myself and wondered if I should even go. You see, I’m a little embarrassed to admit that my knowledge of this dialect is close to an elementary school-goer’s level, especially when it comes to speaking the language.
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